An Open Letter

When someone lies about you, that it cuts so deeply you're left with no further recourse. This folks, is why I rarely, if ever, ask for help. Because time and again, it gets used against me, thrown in my face, etc. So let's get some background history.

In December 2022, it was made known by a friend of mine whom is an actor, that he would be attending the ComicCon Liverpool on April 1st, 2023 alongside 2 of his costars from the movie Twilight. As they played the Volturi, it was a rare chance for people over in the UK and surrounding nations, to meet up with them. Excitement the likes I'd never known, bubbled up inside. Here was a rare chance for me to have a "friend" close enough to not only attend but to maybe snag an autograph for me! I was thrilled as we planned the next 2 days filled with events and other things.

As more and more actors and actresses were announced, we agonized over whose autographs and photos we wanted the most. But throughout it all, I was having a blast! But then a month before the convention hit, my beloved tabby, Pele, became deathly ill. I thought we could beat whatever it was, that was making her sick. I was so horribly fooled. On April 29th, of that same month, just mere weeks after the convention concluded, I was forced to put her down, to end her suffering and suffering she was.

I informed my friend of the situation and was told not to worry about payment. In fact, she was on the phone while the vet was putting Pele down! But as time has gone by, and no autographs have ever arrived, and after getting excuse after excuse, I asked a friend to return to my Boutique, to help me clean shop. Old verbal agreements were now being voided if my end hadn't been shipped nor arrived and notices were going out to address the issues in as calm a manner as we possibly could.

In fact. We thought that by using a ticket based system, this would be the easiest way of handling things. Instead, it resulted in the biggest blow up I've had to deal with for 2025.

THE SCREENSHOTS

These are in order.

Learning how much the Autograph for Christopher Heyerdahl is.

What that equals to, today.

Me enquiring on how much I owe for the autographs including the reply given.

On 02/01/23 me asking for my "friend's" paypal so I could send her payment - I was never replied too.

On 09/19/23 I get this asking about a blog post regarding autographs I hadn't gotten from another party. Note the excuse given as to why mine haven't been shipped by this party in particular.

Today on 01/26/25 we began 'cleaning shop' and Lokiii, who is a partner with the Boutique, was approved to send this message to my "friend" as I didn't want to be involved as I wanted an impartial body to deal with the issue at hand. We all felt this was the best way to handle the situation regarding the Autographs.

The reply that Lokiii got. Our first time being informed that the autographs were never sent due to lack of funds. This is the FIRST TIME I was ever made aware of this being an issue, despite repeatedly asking how much I owed.

My "friend" doubling down on the "she never paid for them" excuse and then saying my short/long term memory loss can't be blamed for my not asking every day for this person's Paypal - keeping in mind that when I was 20yrs old, I was kicked in the head by a horse, was rushed to hospital and suffered a moderate concussion and was later, medically diagnosed with short and long term memory loss due to this.

After my primary partner Amy, chimed in and stated that all replies would be viewed by other partners and that this person was on 'thin ice' due to her accusations alone - she accused us of ambushing her, when the reality is, we made a group chat, so I could address the issue at hand as I was genuinely hurt by the accusations being spun about me.

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I will admit, my reaction was over the top, but I was hurt, still am, and I was pissed off, still am, that this person had the gall to lie about me to my sister, someone whose known me for close to 9 years. While yes, my sister would of seen the lie for what it was, the fact remains; I'm done being lied about by people who can't seem to tell the truth and wouldn't know how too, even if their life depended upon it.

This person has ghosted me and gaslit me for close to 2yrs and I've finally had it. Come Feburary, I will be shipping out the parcel I'd been holding on to as we'd been waiting on her to confirm her mailing address, as we'd had issues not two months prior. Add onto that, in November to December, Canada Post was on strike, so nothing was being mailed out or in.

My final message before Feb. 19 hits at which point, tracking will be provided and I'll be washing my hands of this person for good.

This was a person who would always accuse others for her friendships ending, but now? Now I see how and why they more than likely ended. I have held onto this friendship, believing that somehow, someway, it could be saved, salvaged maybe, but now I see, that once my services as a person close to another, was used up, I was tossed aside.

I hope to someday be able to meet Christopher in person. But I've no idea when that'll be as comic conventions never come to the North end of Vancouver Island. There's no place big enough to host everyone and really, there's nothing in the Tri-port area (Port Alice, McNeill and Hardy) and the reality is, there's nothing to draw these types of events to us. So who knows when it'll be. Maybe never. But as of Feburary, I'll be wiping my hands of the loss. It's hard pill to swallow, but it is what it is and life goes on.